Sunday, May 1, 2011

but if I didn't say it, well I'd still have felt it... where's the sense in that?

i'm a pretty hard person to offend. i just don't see the point of getting mad at someone for what they think... which is pretty much what getting offended is. did someone say that they think people from your country should all be rounded up and shot? did someone tell you that all gays are going to hell and rape victims are partly responsible for rape? did someone not invite you to something or call when they should have? so what? i mean okay, people can be ignorant and stupid and obnoxious... nothing new there. but what's the point in getting mad at them for their ignorance? just because they think you're one fry short of a happy meal and riding the freeway to eternal damnation does not make it true, and if you think they're wrong then it doesn't matter anyway and why are you offended?

i have the same issue with most apologies. i find apologizing for anything not accidental ridiculous to be honest. someone saying "sorry that you took it the wrong way" is universally acknowledged as the worst way to apologize. it's the cop-out apology, throwing everything back on the one you're apologizing to. but in my opinion, it's the most honest of all apologies. i live with the belief that no one is ever really sorry for things they say or do. they're only sorry because it's socially unacceptable to say/do them; they're sorry because of the reaction they get. not saying something won't change the fact that they think it, and why should someone apologize for what they think and feel? so though apologizing for the way i took something will annoy me to death, i think i prefer it over the alternative. at least it's honest. at least it's not something they feel they have to say to spare themselves society's backlash.

i've been told that the only reason i think this is because i'm so apathetic, and maybe that's true. i honestly don't care if you think i'm fat or that my country is turning out terrorists faster than you can blacklist them. do i think you're stupid? sure. but i don't want you to apologize for what you think . i'd rather you go out and educate yourself about the truth. i'm not going to get offended when someone insults me or mine. i'll probably pity the offender instead... and mock them. always, always mock them. but to do anything else... well, what's the point?

random side note: i went to king's dominion yesterday (the first theme park i've been to in virginia ever. i moved her '98) and my nose is really sunburned. also, i think fruity pebbles treats are something that should have been made and sold decades ago. i haven't tried them yet, but why has it taken them so long to produce something that just seems so obvious in retrospect?

*White Flag - Dido 

1 comment:

  1. anonymous hippopotamusMay 2, 2011 at 11:16 PM

    love this song...not so sure bout the blog though..