Friday, November 2, 2012

rape me, my friend

the other day i was watching an episode of melissa and joey, and joe was teaching one of mel's boyfriends how to be confident or whatever so he could get a job so mel could dump him without feeling bad about it. anyway, he stops by mel's house and asks her to go out with him that night and mel says no. joe then tells the boyfriend (i can't remember his name) to never take no for an answer. i've heard that saying a million and three times before in my life. we've always been told that the people who get ahead in life, the ones that are destined for success, never take no for an answer. and maybe it's because i heard it so much that i never really listened to it, but it wasn't until that moment that i thought, wait a minute... that's totally rape mentality.

and that got me to thinking.

you know how when you're younger you were always told that the girl/boy that is mean to you really likes you? that you should give them a chance because, yeah they do stupid things, but it's only because they can't tell you how they feel about you. i'll be at the playground and see a boy chasing a screaming little girl around and no one will tell the boy to stop because, "the girl really wants him to chase her, she's just pretending not to." that's also rape mentality.

so basically we're raising our children to think like rapists their whole lives - from the playground to the workforce. it's no wonder that almost every society blames the victim. they're the ones creating the rapists so of course they won't see them in the wrong.

*Rape Me - Nirvana

7 comments:

  1. men are crazy though. one of the things i love most to do is watch out for a scantily clad and/or attractive woman walk by and watch all the men's reactions. you get the double glances, the up-and-down. everything.

    i've been watching a lot of SVU lately. i'm scared it's made me a little insensitive to rape.

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    1. i'm the opposite. whenever i get into one of my svu phases i get super paranoid that everyone i pass is either going to rape me or kill me or both. i guess it makes me hypersensitive instead of insensitive.

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  2. this is not relevant to the post topic, but i am on a netflix binge, watching matilda. and you remind me of matilda so much. the personality should be the main comparison, but i think she just looks like what i imagine you would have looked like as a kid.

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    1. when i was little i used to think that i was similar to matilda (a little conceited i know). i remember my school wanted me to skip a grade but my parents said no, so i thought that i should have all of this extra brain power that would let me do what matilda did. for like a year i kept trying to pour my cereal with my mind. when it didn't work i just figured i wasn't smart enough instead of realizing that it was impossible.

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  3. anonymous hippopotamusNovember 3, 2012 at 3:45 AM

    r matilda was cute sarah was not :P lool

    i love melissa and joey! and that episode was soo funny!!

    lastly..OH. MY. GOD. I NEVER thought of it like that!!!! but it seems logical.. scary!

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    1. whatever, i was such a cute kid.

      i love melissa and joey, too, but sometimes i can't tell if it's because of my lingering love fro the actors i liked as a child or if it's the show. i watch it at night when i knit.

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    2. anonymous hippopotamusNovember 4, 2012 at 1:55 AM

      i think its a mix of both..cuz sometimes the episodes are just plain stupid..even for me :D

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