okay so people, namely all my cousins in saudi arabia, have been having the weirdest reactions to my engagement. i feel like i'm gonna get off the plane over there and they'll have a coffin ready for me to climb into. yes, they are making me feel like i am dying not getting married. or at least going somewhere far, far away from where i can never ever come back and they can never go. for example, the first cousin i told (well, actually he was the third, but he was the first to respond), after saying that he was happy for me and wished me all the best said something along the lines of, "i will miss you so much, and i will never forget you. you will always have a special place in my heart." (actually, that may be exactly what he said.) my response was, "um lool i'm not dying. why are you making me feel like i'll never see you again?" he replied with something stupid like "i know" or something equally pointless.
the second cousin i told replied with, "that is so exciting, i will miss you soo much." umm thanks :/.
her niece that i spend practically all summer with sent an i will never forget you and then changed her profile pic on facebook to one of me and her and her status to "i will miss you sarah." in all caps.
her sister sent me a message saying, "don't ever forget me because i will never forget you and the fun times we had together."
do you see the trend going on here? why is everyone going to miss me anymore than they do when i see them a couple of months a year. why do i have to be remembered and not forget them either? i mean, yes, my older sister sees them a lot less than she used to, but that doesn't mean i will. i will still talk to them. i will still see them. i really don't plan on changing any of that. so their reactions, though i find them mildly hilarious, creep me out a little. i swear i'm not dying. i do not have any special kool-aid to drink on my wedding night. i will still be me and ignore their messages for weeks and weeks before sending some lame "sorry. i've been so busy with school. here is an answer to every pointless thing you've sent me over the past month. i miss you too and can't wait for the summer either." at least... i'm pretty sure. do they know something i don't know?
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maybe they see it as you starting a new life away from your family? or maybe there's a family curse which takes effect when you get married
ReplyDeletei wonder if Manal is going to have a crush on azzaz too?? :D
ReplyDeleteHannah... lool i think it must be a family curse. if my blog suddenly dies over the summer, you'll know what happened.
ReplyDeleteanonymous hippopotamus... umm i don't think so. plus, she'll probably be too angry that i'm not marrying her brother.
I think that they are not used to the idea of you being gone, and they might not understand tha marriage is different in the U.S. and that you can keep in contact with them. I am sure when you are married you will be able to prove to them that you will still see them, even though they will not have everyday contact with them. But they are your family and they are just worried. Don't be angered with them.
ReplyDeleteI might not know much about your cousins but I think f'ing retarded or I think muslims marry in the family with cousins, right? Maybe one of the guys are so into you that they'll end up hanging themselves to something that buys them enough time for some one to find out. Into you means that they love you, duhh!
ReplyDeleteYou have a nice blog. After reading some of it, no disrespect, but I don't think you really have a life. So you might as well get married and get on with it.
cskaggs... thank you, but don't worry i'm not angered with them. i just think it's kinda funny... in a ridiculous sort of way. and actually, to be honest, keeping in contact after marriage is probably easier/bigger there because there is a much higher value put on family and keeping in touch (and by family i mean going as far out as cousins' cousins and such).
ReplyDeleteAnonymous... um, as is usually the case with Anonymous commenters on my blog, your first sentence doesn't make much sense. it's missing a few words and the two clauses you connected probably shouldn't be joined because they don't really seem to have much to do with each other. anyway, yeah cousins can marry each other in islam. i know what into you means, i can be pretty smart like that. and no i'm pretty sure that's not the case, but thanks for the suggestion.
also, no, i don't have a life. i mention that a lot in this blog but think i may have forgotten to recently, so thanks for pointing it out again. :) and sorry to disappoint, but i probably won't have one when i'm married either. i'm just that kinda person.
Lol at the reply to the anon guy :p
ReplyDeleteHmm anon should learn english.
ReplyDeleteThis was my second time commenting. Grammatical mistakes are common where i come from ... that does n't really offend me. In fact, i actually appreciate the concern and will remember to comment as if i'm in an English class, apparently. and would n't that be incest in a way? no perverseness intended ... enlighten me .. you sound like someone who knows a lot about themselves ... because i'm anglican.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous... i wasn't meaning to offend you any more than you were meaning to offend me. you don't have to comment as if you were in an english class, but i'll still probably correct you cause that's what i do sorry. it's helpful though, don't you think? you can brush up on your english while reading entertaining posts about my nonlife.
ReplyDeleteincest: sexual intercourse between two persons commonly regarded as too closely related to marry.
so yes, in the western world it may be considered slightly incestual. on the other side of the world where it is completely socially, culturally, and legally okay, even common, no it wouldn't. it really all depends on the laws of where you are. most people though, refer to incest more of just parent/children, sibling/sibling type relationships, and those are pretty much a no no everywhere in the world i'm pretty sure.