Saturday, January 21, 2012

you love me but you don't know who i am

i hate when formspring emails me telling me to check out what my friends have been up to, and i go to the site and there's been no new activity since the last time i signed in like a month ago.

another thing that has been bothering me lately, which i must admit i used to do all the time, is thinking that character a should just love character b because character b is good and loves character a. it doesn't matter if these characters are in books, movies, or tv shows, the same principle applies.

one of the top examples in my mind is from the hunger games because someone just mentioned this, but i could find examples from a hundred different things. in the hunger games, though, you often find people getting annoyed with katniss for not immediately falling for peeta when he says that he loves her. throughout the entire first book, they just can't stand her because she's pretending to be in love, and she's confused, and he is just so sweet (the main, more important plot of killing children aside of course). and then when she has to get engaged and married and everything, they're just so annoyed that she's not happy to be spending forever with him. and of course it just boils down to the fact that she doesn't deserve him and he's so much better than her.

but who said that, just because someone loves you, you have to love them back? who decided that what katniss wants (to be alone forever) doesn't matter because what peeta wants is so much more sweet and romantic? character b may very well be a fantastic person who deserves all chances at happiness, but that doesn't mean that character a should give up their own happiness for them. character a should not be expected to be swept off their feet just because character b has a really cool broom.

i find myself watching movies now that i watched years ago, and when before i was thinking, "oh my god just get together already," now i find myself hoping they stay apart because there is no way they should be together. maybe i'm just becoming even more cynical, but it annoys me.

i think that's what's really great about 500 days of summer. the girl goes off and finds her own happiness, despite the fact that the guy really wanted to be with her. and i know a lot of people hate her for that, but these are the same people that don't seem to realize that he was one of those people that fell in love with an image of her and refused to let go of it, even when it no longer fit her.

i'm starting to ramble. and i can't find a song lyric that goes with this.

*Let Me Go - 3 Doors Down


  1. I need to watch that film (500 days of summer) :p

    Totally agree with you. In reality, think about it. Most love is unrequited because for a relationship to work, both parties must be happy. If one is giving up their happiness for the other, what sort of relationship is that?

  2. i hate summer. i really hate her. selfish, self-absorbed brat.

  3. Hannah: exactly. i don;t know why fictional realities can't grasp that fact.

    The Procrastinator: i didn't really like her the first few times i watched the movie, but i recently watched it again and was too busy hating on the guy (i forgot his name) for being delusional and trying to force her into what he wants to pay her much attention.

  4. You're thinking way too much about Katniss/Peeta. The only reason there was an on-again, off-again love triangle was because the author was looking for something to fill the pages with while Katniss was roaming through the air ducts and hospital rooms.

  5. lol katniss/peeta was actually just an argument i had read and thought ridiculous because the people pro-peeta were pro-him for all the wrong reasons. and i think katniss's roaming was pretty interesting stuff to fill the pages with by itself. her twirling that bracelet that said she was mentally unstable was thrilling. and the time she realized that she no longer had the bracelet? i swear i had to put down the book because it was such a mind-blowing moment. the love triangle was her merely catering to her target audience and her inner pre-teen.